When you say you love somebody don’t you inwardly depend on that person? When you are a child you naturally depend on your parents; you need to be cared for. As we grow older this feeling of dependency continues. Haven’t you noticed this? Without someone to lean on to give them comfort and security people feel lonely and lost.

This dependency is called LOVE. But if you observe it. It is not LOVE it is FEAR. Now it is natural to depend when you are young but if you keep on DEPENDING WHEN YOU HAVE GROWN TO MATURITY; THAT WILL MAKE YOU INCAPABLE OF THINKING; OF BEING FREE.

J. Krishnamurti “On Love and Loneliness”
The craving to become causes fears; to be, to achieve, and so to depend engenders fear. The state of the nonfear is not negation, it is not the opposite of fear nor is it courage. In understanding the cause of fear, there is its cessation, not the becoming courageous, for in all becoming there is the seed of fear. Dependence on things, on people, or on ideas breeds fear; dependence arises from ignorance, from the lack of self-knowledge, from inward poverty; fear causes uncertainty of mind-heart, preventing communication and understanding. Through self-awareness we begin to discover and so comprehend the cause of fear, not only the superficial but the deep casual and accumulative fears.
J Krishnamurti